There are many different types of counselling and it can sometimes feel confusing when trying to choose the right counsellor for you.
Whilst my counselling is based upon two main styles of counselling, the key to my work is mostly focussed on building a strong relationship with you.
What kind of issues can I support?
Life is full of ups and down and the different events we experience throughout our lives can sometimes be overwhelming and difficult for us to manage. This can even include those things perceived to be positive life events, such as a promotion, a new job or moving house.
You may be dealing with ongoing depression, stress or anxiety and need someone to talk to around how to cope with this.
You may feel like you need someone to talk to about how you’re feeling to try and make sense of it all.
You may just need someone to listen when you don’t feel like there is anyone else you can talk to.
What if I don’t know what’s wrong?
Sometimes when we experience stress, anxiety or depression, we may not always be aware of what the cause is. Sometimes there is not often an obvious trigger. If you feel like you need support but don’t know where to start, please still get in touch as part of the counselling process can allow you to explore this with some added support to help you find your way.
To explain my approaches in the clearest and most straightforward way, I have provided the following descriptions straight from the BACP website:
During our time together I will try to create a safe space for you to feel able to open up about your feelings without fear of judgement. Naturally, it may take you time to feel comfortable to open up fully to a new person and that is completely normal.
That’s why I believe it’s really important for us to develop a strong and trusting relationship where I will help you through your problems in an accepting and supportive way.
Counselling is time for you (yes, really!), so our sessions will be focussed on what you want to talk about. The person who knows you best, is you; but I will help guide your thoughts and help you to come up with your own solutions and support you through this.
I will often explore past issues with you that may recognise are repeating in your life. Do you sometimes find yourself in the same situation again and again and cannot seem to understand why? Psychodynamic theory helps to unpick this.
I also explore the conditions of worth that we develop through our early years and growing up, how we develop our ‘self’ and how this can be influenced by our development and early life events.
What we view as good/bad or right/wrong in life can often result in those pressure we put on ourselves as individuals to conform to what we believe we should be doing and how we must live our lives, and how we feel if we’re not able to achieve what we are expected to.
Exploring our past and up-bringing can help us to understand the way we feel and behave today and gives us the opportunity to choose a different approach going forward.