About Counselling

There are many different types of counselling and it can sometimes feel confusing when trying to choose the right counsellor for you.

Whilst my counselling is based upon two main styles of counselling, the key to my work is mostly focussed on building a strong relationship with you.

What kind of issues can I support?

Life is full of ups and down and the different events we experience throughout our lives can sometimes be overwhelming and difficult for us to manage. This can even include those things perceived to be positive life events, such as a promotion, a new job or moving house.

You may be dealing with ongoing depression, stress or anxiety and need someone to talk to around how to cope with this.

You may feel like you need someone to talk to about how you’re feeling to try and make sense of it all.

You may just need someone to listen when you don’t feel like there is anyone else you can talk to.

What if I don’t know what’s wrong?

Sometimes when we experience stress, anxiety or depression, we may not always be aware of what the cause is. Sometimes there is not often an obvious trigger. If you feel like you need support but don’t know where to start, please still get in touch as part of the counselling process can allow you to explore this with some added support to help you find your way.

My Approach

To explain my approaches in the clearest and most straightforward way, I have provided the following descriptions straight from the BACP website:

Person-Centred Therapy:

Person or client-centred therapy is based on the view that everyone has the capacity and desire for personal growth and change, given the right conditions. Rather than being seen as the expert and directing the therapy, the counsellor offers unconditional positive regard, empathy and congruence to help you come to terms with any negative feelings and to change and develop in your own way.

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During our time together I will try to create a safe space for you to feel able to open up about your feelings without fear of judgement. Naturally, it may take you time to feel comfortable to open up fully to a new person and that is completely normal.

That’s why I believe it’s really important for us to develop a strong and trusting relationship where I will help you through your problems in an accepting and supportive way.

Counselling is time for you (yes, really!), so our sessions will be focussed on what you want to talk about. The person who knows you best, is you; but I will help guide your thoughts and help you to come up with your own solutions and support you through this.

Psychodynamic Therapy:

The psychodynamic approach is derived from psychoanalysis, but focuses on immediate problems to try to provide a quicker solution. It stresses the importance of the unconscious and past experience in shaping current behaviour. A therapist will aim to build an accepting and trusting relationship, encouraging you to talk about your childhood relationships with your parents and other significant people. It also uses similar techniques to psychotherapy, including free association, interpretation and especially transference, where feelings you experienced in previous significant relationships are projected onto the therapist.

BACP (www.bacp.co.uk)

I will often explore past issues with you that may recognise are repeating in your life. Do you sometimes find yourself in the same situation again and again and cannot seem to understand why? Psychodynamic theory helps to unpick this.

I also explore the conditions of worth that we develop through our early years and growing up, how we develop our ‘self’ and how this can be influenced by our development and early life events.

What we view as good/bad or right/wrong in life can often result in those pressure we put on ourselves as individuals to conform to what we believe we should be doing and how we must live our lives, and how we feel if we’re not able to achieve what we are expected to.

Exploring our past and up-bringing can help us to understand the way we feel and behave today and gives us the opportunity to choose a different approach going forward.

About Me

Based in Newbury, Berkshire, offering sessions both face to face and online.

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Get In Touch

Email: hayleyruthcounselling@gmail.com

Tel: 01635 015998

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Ethical Practice

Read more about the BACP ethical code of practice that I follow.

BACP Ethical Framework